Thought Catalog

Love

Love

I was once in a relationship that seemed positive and supportive at first. It began with a steaming pile of promises right up front. These promises included loving me forever (after knowing me for less than six months) and wanting to have children together (before even living together). It was my entire future wrapped in a button-up.

Let her know how supportive you are, that there’s no gender when it comes to being a cheerleader for the person you care about. Have her back the way she has yours. Be in the front row, cheering and clapping her every success.

He knows you deserve more and he’s scared you’ll find it so he keeps you hanging on by being the one who cares less because the one who cares less always has the most control. He is manipulating you. He is doing what he can to make you stay, to beg for his attention, to make you feel like you need him.