9. You aren’t paying attention to your audience
“Know your audience. Mutual friendly insults with your buddies is fine. In the office, not so much.
Listening is an important skill – but there is a difference between parroting back what you just heard and asking insightful followup questions that demonstrate you were paying attention.
Active listening itself is really important. Don’t equate ‘having the perfect thing to say every time’ with ‘socially adept’. A conversation requires both people have a chance to both talk and listen, and it’s a bad idea to focus on only half of that
To clarify, I am ‘socially adept’ because I have forced myself to be, because it’s a critical skill in my job. That doesn’t mean it comes easily or naturally” — YourBlogSucksToo