These 30 Mistakes Are Accidentally Making You Come Across As Socially Awkward

If you don’t want to come across as socially awkward, follow this advice from Ask Reddit.

3. You are too pessimistic

“In general don’t have a negative outlook. Seriously. Talking to someone who talks or even looks like they are down in the dumps is never fun. It’s an uphill battle that you are putting people in.” — the2ndandnotonly

4. You have the same conversations over and over again

“When conversing with people they see periodically, they ask them the same questions every time they greet each other. Normally it’s about the only thing that connects the two people, like where they met or where they worked together. A conversation ends up being:

‘Hey man, how’s the bank?’

‘Still, the same old shit.’

‘Cool, cool.’

Then it’s just awkwardness. Of course a conversation isn’t going to develop this way; it’s the same routine every time you meet. You’re trying too hard. I normally greet people with something like, ‘How’s life?’ Really simple. If there’s anything they feel like talking about, they’ll segue into that. If not, they’ll turn the question back to you.

If you have nothing interesting to say, throw in something like “Did you do anything cool over the weekend?” The important thing is to not limit their responses. If you are always asking specific questions at the beginning of the conversation, it usually ends up being boring as fuck because the odds are that nothing new happened at work, nothing is new with Aunt Cindy, nothing is new at school, etc.” — bucknut4

Juliet Lanka

Hater of love. Lover of horror.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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