These 30 Mistakes Are Accidentally Making You Come Across As Socially Awkward

If you don’t want to come across as socially awkward, follow this advice from Ask Reddit.

26. You only talk about yourself

“Forgetting to ask open questions of people to get to know them. I’ve been to a lot of social events where the more awkward people talk and talk about themselves, as if finally having the chance, but it quickly becomes dull and one-sided.” — XInsects

27. You tell stories that make you look bad

“Had a friend who would tell stories that cast him in a negative light around girls he liked. Stories that ended with him getting rejected, messing something up, things like that. It worked out about as well as you’d think. Pick your best moments in life and present yourself that way, it works wonders.” — tarkovskystrut

28. You keep confusing ‘introverted‘ with ‘socially awkward’

“Thinking that being an introvert is the same thing as being socially awkward. The introvert-extrovert scale runs on the X-axis and social skills run on the Y-axis. It is entirely possible to be a socially skilled introvert just like you can have a socially awkward extrovert.

One of the biggest mistakes I see socially awkward introverts make is conflating those two issues and thinking, ‘well my personality is introverted, therefore I am socially awkward’. Social skills are SKILLS and they can be improved. Thinking, ‘I’m an introvert’, gives people an excuse to not work on or practice those skills.” — minamunu

Juliet Lanka

Hater of love. Lover of horror.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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