There are certain qualities that make a relationship with an introvert so strong. And while these pertain to any healthy relationship, they are of the utmost value and fundamental to someone who’s introverted. A relationship with an introvert will come from building foundations and breaking down walls… and what you break down, you must rebuild.
You will have a foundation of patience.
It will take time for an introvert to let their guard down, to open their heart. They will move slow and take their time to really get to know you before they commit because they want to be sure.
It takes patience to understand that an introvert is secure in their own life, so it will take effort to prove to them that they are safe with you, that you have good intentions. Through soul-searching they’ve learned what they’re looking for and what they will not settle for. They believe that nothing is worth jeopardizing themselves, which is why it sometimes takes so long for them to open up.
But be assured that when an introvert’s walls come down and they allow themselves to fall in love with you, their love will not falter. They will make sure you know that they only have eyes for you, and you will never doubt their love. It’s not always easy for them to connect but when they finally do, the connection will be solid.
Emotional depth is everything.
There will be nothing superficial or “surface” about your relationship, rather, it will have immeasurable depth. An introvert does not waste their time on bullshit, they don’t expend energy on things that don’t matter, they don’t worry about what doesn’t pertain to them or let external factors affect them. They don’t have meaningless conversations, and if they’re in a situation where they must resort to chitchat, it can make them uncomfortable, which can make them seem indifferent or standoffish. But if you know them, you understand that they’re just not wired in a way where they enjoy small talk because they’re too focused on finding meaning in everything.
You see, with an introvert, they try to find value in every conversation, every moment they’re engaging with you, because they’re trying to understand you on a deeper level. They will encourage you to open up, to share your feelings and dreams, and show you that it’s safe to be vulnerable with them. They want to share poignant moments with you, confide their doubts and fears, and feel secure knowing that you will not judge them.
You will love someone who is internally grounded.
Although an introvert has spent a lot of their life quietly observing people, they don’t want to know about the affairs of others. They focus on what’s right in front of them: their own lives, their relationship, their personal development. They understand their own faults, and are constantly trying to better themselves by working through their issues.
They know their limits, and you will learn them too… when to push, when to pull back. You’ll realize that an introvert can sometimes be honest to a fault because they say what they mean.
But they have a quiet confidence about them. They don’t try to please people, and don’t need validation from others. You’ve fallen in love with someone who’s always been self sufficient. Someone who was fine on their own before you & will be fine if you’re gone.
Individuality is respected and necessary.
An introvert wants you to have your own life, not solely a life of dependency on one another. They cherish their alone time, and thrive in their own space. They won’t lose their identity in you, and don’t want you to lose your identity in them. They crave a balanced relationship and hope the intertwining of your lives will complement each other’s, not fuse together and become one. An introvert knows who they are and won’t put years of introspection aside for the sake of someone else. They believe in feeding their soul with their passions, cultivating their relationships, growing as a person, and they want the same for you.
Your relationship with an introvert will be anything but average. It will have immense depth, passion, and trust. Nothing is half-hearted, there is no minimal effort and you will know where you stand. They will give themselves to you, and expect you to be just as open, just as transparent, and most importantly, just as vulnerable. Because in any relationship, it is in vulnerability that people show their true selves… in vulnerability, people grow in their love.