7. You draw negative attention to yourself
“Stop drawing negative attention to yourself. If you feel insecure about having a pimple on your chin don’t open a conversation with a person, ‘Can you believe this gross zit on my chin?’ The rest of us are people too, we get gross zits from time to time, we’re all human. We want to ignore it and interact with the other 99.9% of you, so please let us.
Don’t take people hostage. People give signals that they want to end an interaction. They start looking away, looking at their watch, moving away, saying things like, ‘Well I need to go and do X now…’. Take the hint. Be polite. End it when the other person wants to end it. Don’t continue talking, don’t begin to close the distance as they move away from you. People are much more likely to interact with you if you know how to end a conversation and they don’t fear having to escape from you if they interact with you.
Bathe. I was out dancing with friends recently. A guy tried to wiggle his way into our circle to dance. One of the other women told him, ‘I wouldn’t mind letting you dance with us if you didn’t smell like an open sewer. If you want to be around other people, wash! It’s where I draw the line.’ It’s where almost everybody draws the line. Nobody wants to endure that.” — NZT-48Rules
8. You don’t pick up on body language
“This is big.
My brother is really socially awkward in some subtle ways, and this is his biggest issue. He doesn’t pick up on body language when someone isn’t interested in what he is saying. So, as a result, he’ll just keep talking about whatever random thing that no one understands. I’ve learned to just tell him to shut up because I’m not interested. But, I’m his brother, and it took me 20 years to realize this is what needed to happen.
This is consistent too. Too many people will start conversations that other people can’t keep up with, so it kills the mood and socially awkward people seem to notice THAT, but they don’t understand WHY.
Keep the conversation to stuff you have in common, or something that others can converse about.
Stop bringing up the obscure anime that you found last week.” — Twilicerralia