Only Good Boyfriends Don’t Stay Friends With Their Ex

He calls those weaseling, once-on-their-knees-in-front-of-him, exes ‘friends’.
He calls those weaseling, once-on-their-knees-in-front-of-him, exes ‘friends’.
It’s too easy to leave, too easy to blame the other person, too easy to miss the incredible opportunity that relationships provide for healing and growth.
“We’re replaceable. We’re easily discarded. A woman’s death is a tragedy; a man’s death is a happening.”
Calling it quits is easier when it was never love. Yet, even then many of us find it difficult to let go. It’s never more difficult, however, than when the person you’re considering giving up on is someone you did love.
Get used to the apologies. Get used to the mental or emotional exhaustion after any form of expression relating to their abuse.
You never have to compete with anyone – and a healthy partner would never want anyone who they truly love and cherish to feel like they’re competing with anybody anyway.
It means being an outsider in the modern dating scene. You don’t play games, you don’t speak words that are empty, you don’t commit to promises you don’t intend to keep.
“I was raped multiple times as a child and I’ve never had a real friend in my life.”
When emotionally abused women ask “Do emotionally abusive men know they are abusive?” their preferred answers usually start with the words: “No, they don’t.”
If you’re out with mates/out clubbing send her a small text to remind her that she’s still on your mind. Heck, just send her that kissy emoji thing by itself and she’ll be swooning.
They may romanticize the relationship and re-idealize you, taking back all their hurtful words and actions in one fell swoop (or cleverly constructed text message).
If you’re spending 90% of your dating energy on a guy who is not putting in an equal amount of energy back, you’re wasting your time.
Issues of control always stem from an emotional imbalance, whether it be insecurity, an inability to foster self-love, or an unhealthy need for perfection.