The way you view your life is usually the way your life turns out to be. By this I mean if you see your world is a dark, bleak place and use negative connotations to describe it, the more likely it is that all you will find in your life is problems and tragedy.
I would tell them it would be learning how to say the word “no”, loud, proud and without letting the look on someone’s face dictate how I feel about myself after.
People have a habit of wanting things they cannot have. The advertising world calls it aspiration and giving us all something to aspire to. The trouble is, you cannot aspire to other people. Just to yourself.
It is the dancing in the moonlight, cannot wait for the next day kind of love. It is the “oh my God, I don’t know what I did to deserve you but here you are” kind of love.
The good news is, this is the worst part and it only gets easier from here. The bad news is, this is the worst part and your recovery is deeply unclear.
So when you say you love them, do you really? Have you seen them at their deepest truth? All the layers stripped away and sheer primitive emotion?
“Don’t let the bastards grind you down.”
– Margaret Atwood, The Handmaid’s Tale
In a single minute, 288,000 stars are born, and each and every one of those stars is unique and has a unique purpose. Nothing comes into being without this purpose. In the same way, every human walking this planet has an entirely unique purpose. Even you. Even the person you are comparing yourself to.
Disappointment in yourself is usually what leads to self love and an unforgettable journey into the real you, and all the things you can achieve, if you just get out of your own way.
People heal at entirely different rates and you are allowed to feel broken for as long as those feelings are inside your system. There is a reason for them being there. In these negative emotions you will find positive ones and growth.