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Please Stop Doubting Yourself When You Are Happy

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You’re happy. Genuinely happy after what feels like ages. And you’re finally getting the stability you’ve been craving for absolutely ages. You’re finally beginning to get the things you need from your life and everything feels blissful after a very, very long time. But for some reason, you simply cannot shake the feeling that you don’t deserve it. There is a little voice inside you that just keeps saying “Nah, this new job, this new house, this new life, this is all going to go wrong soon. Just wait.”

Fear of happiness is actually a very real fear. It strikes those of us who have always found ourselves exuberant until “the other shoe fell” and suddenly everything we thought would be there for us was suddenly gone, without warning. Fear of happiness affects perfectionists, workaholics, longterm abuse survivors for a range of different reasons, but all of us at some point have stopped and wondered, “Do I deserve being this happy? Is this going to be taken away from me soon?”

Psychologically this comes from doubting one’s self worth. It’s the idea of “deserve”. We hear so much that the world is an unfair place that we begin to think that any happiness we receive is undeserved and therefore are suspicious when we fall into a good place, a sound routine and a strong support system in our lives.

I want you to know this. YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY.

Yes, the world is an unfair place. Yes, things won’t last making you as happy as you are right now in this moment. However, living in fear of this happiness and believing you don’t deserve it is a self fulfilling prophecy. You have struggled through a lot in your life. You have suffered and been in pain. And you didn’t deserve all the sadness you have been through. The happiness you have found right now does not even compare to the amount of heartache you have been through, this is why you deserve happiness.

I hope you find ten times the happiness you have right now. I hope you find so much happiness that you don’t even know what to do with it. I hope you find joy wherever you go. TC mark

Nikita Gill

Nikita is the author of Your Soul Is A River, a book about healing and becoming whole again.

Your Soul Is A River

“Love a soft person. The ones who are positive, even in the worst of circumstances. Someone whose strength is not in bravado, but in their quiet. Someone who is strong for others because that is what is needed in that moment. Someone who is the moon that soothes instead of the sun that burns. Someone who sees the very best in people even when you think they aren’t worth it. The kind of person who always wants to do the best for those they love.”
—Excerpt from Your Soul Is A River, by Nikita Gill

“I bought this on a whim to read as I was resting for the night, and I do not regret it one bit! Everything about the poetry in this book is amazing, heart breaking, and soul searching. It will lift your spirits on your darkest days. I want to thank the author so much for writing this, as it’s something I will be rereading a lot! Always remember, everything about you is important. You matter.” —McKayla

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Cut yourself some slack. One of the biggest regrets most people have about their 20s is that they didn’t enjoy them more. And I’m not talking about “buy more expensive dinners, take another trip to Thailand” type of enjoyment. I mean having the ability to take a deep breath and sip coffee in the morning knowing that you have done, and are doing, your best.

“These essays are slowly changing my life, as the title promises. As my friends’ birthday come along, they will all be receiving a copy of this wonderful book.” – Janie

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