Here’s How You Know If You REALLY Love Them

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People confess their love for each other too soon, too quickly, too heartbreakingly fast without understanding that love, honest love doesn’t happen without seeing someone deeply and painfully vulnerable.

Human beings are deeply, terribly troubled creatures who are only at their most honest when they are vulnerable. If you want to know the makings of your friends, of your lover, of your parents, just watch them when they are in angry or in pain.

So when you say you love them, do you really? Have you seen them at their deepest truth? All the layers stripped away and sheer primitive emotion?

Have you seen them weak?

Have you seen them angry?

Have you seen them cry?

Love, real love, only happens when you see someone at the very worst of themselves, and still find your heart full with softness and warmth for them. Before you confess the wholeness of your love for someone, get so deeply entangled in a relationship that you are taken completely by surprise at negative behaviour from them, see them without the mask we all wear for the world everyday, the mask that says, “I’m fine” when it means “I’m broken”.

And then decide if you love them, or if you must let them go. TC mark

Nikita Gill

Nikita is the author of Your Soul Is A River, a book about healing and becoming whole again.

Your Soul Is A River

“Love a soft person. The ones who are positive, even in the worst of circumstances. Someone whose strength is not in bravado, but in their quiet. Someone who is strong for others because that is what is needed in that moment. Someone who is the moon that soothes instead of the sun that burns. Someone who sees the very best in people even when you think they aren’t worth it. The kind of person who always wants to do the best for those they love.”
—Excerpt from Your Soul Is A River, by Nikita Gill

“I bought this on a whim to read as I was resting for the night, and I do not regret it one bit! Everything about the poetry in this book is amazing, heart breaking, and soul searching. It will lift your spirits on your darkest days. I want to thank the author so much for writing this, as it’s something I will be rereading a lot! Always remember, everything about you is important. You matter.” —McKayla

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