If you want a relationship with a man who’s going to respect you, you might need to look for the guy that hasn’t made a move.
A man will lose interest in a woman who’s waiting around. Some would say it’s about that game of pursuit that men seem to like so much. However, I think it’s more fundamental than that. Waiting around is boring and it makes for a boring woman. A woman that puts her life on hold for a man stops being as attractive because her light dims. It doesn’t matter if she’s dating him for a few weeks or if she’s been married for a decade.
What if these men were quite literally mentally ill and we’re blaming them for a mental disorder without even the consideration of treatment??
A real balanced man shows up when it’s not easy. He shows up when you’re not easy.
Do your self-care with the intensity you’d been doing the thing that got you jacked up. Spa grade self-care works for me every time. When I’m in overachiever mode, spa grade self-care gives me a productive place to channel that energy.
The human brain has what I would call a safe source filter. That means if someone is primarily critical, you quit listening.
You either accept people for who they are, where they are, or you don’t. If you don’t love someone they way they are, it’s on you to take action, not them.
When you are loved in a way that allows you to be yourself fully you quite literally have more energy to invest in the relationship.