When your pet looks at you with adoring eyes, or wags his tail and wiggles with joy, or snuggles next to you on the couch or bed, he is loving you because he believes you are deserving of love. But do you see yourself this way?
Our society is often focused on an instant fix – just take a pill and everything will be fine. Except it won’t.
Being alone for the holidays is a major challenge for many people. Holidays often conjure images of family, of warmth and the sharing of special time. Loneliness can be overwhelming when you have no one with whom to share holiday time.
I give myself full permission to be quiet. I might be enjoying a conversation while having little to add to the discussion. It might be a topic that I find interesting but that I don’t know much about, so I don’t judge myself for not contributing. I make sure that I don’t judge myself at all when I have nothing to say.
It’s one thing to be loving to yourself when things are going well and you feel centered and peaceful inside. It’s quite another to love yourself when you feel panicked and freaked out.
If you are too afraid to love — too afraid that you will get hurt — should you try to heal the fears before trying to love?
The biological sexual drive, or lack of it, relates to how much testosterone is present. The most common complaint from men regarding sex is frequency, and the most common complaint from woman is lack of emotional intimacy.
Healing our abandonment issues doesn’t happen overnight, yet it doesn’t have to take years either.