Perhaps you make excuses for his hot and cold treatment of you, but deep down you know there is something terribly wrong. He might subject you to cruel insults, overt and covert put-downs and even gaslight you into believing that you’re losing your mind. The person he’s acting like now bears little to no resemblance to the person he presented himself to be in the beginning.
This is the numbness you feel right after a breakup. It’s the frozen terror you feel when you receive bad news. It’s the shock that hasn’t worn off a tragedy. The liminal space is the unprocessed aftermath of trauma. It is emotional limbo. It demands some sort of movement, yet to move forward feels achingly wrong. To be in this sort of transitional space can potentially be transformative, if you know how to make use of your journey before you step over the threshold.
Do you find yourself playing the “rescuer” in all of your relationships? You may be suffering from what some psychologists call “White Knight Syndrome.”
In any relationship with a narcissist, you become part of a cult-like group, because narcissists usually have many other “admirers” awaiting to serve them at their beck and call – whether they be ex-lovers, colleagues, crushes, family members, “just friends” or your eventual replacement.
Even with all the information we have about how to spot a liar, the other major question remains: why do people lie in the first place?
It’s important to talk about why suicide attempts and ideation occur. It’s important to destigmatize the suffering of those who may be shouldering their pain in silence. It’s important to be mindful of how we treat those who choose to share their struggles and to be mindful that not everyone may be as open in coming forward or reaching out for help.
There are three counterintuitive reasons why your so-called “dark side” holds the key to manifesting your desires.
DBT is an evidence-based treatment proven by research to be effective for those suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder, substance abuse problems, eating disorders, Borderline Personality Disorder and depression.
I am a twenty-something writer who lives alone in Manhattan, in a dream apartment with a doorman and even a walk-in closet. But unlike Carrie Bradshaw, I left my Mr. Big for good.
