Shahida Arabi

Graduate of Columbia and Harvard
Bestselling Author
Published Researcher
Shahida Arabi is a graduate of Columbia University and Harvard University. She is a published researcher on narcissism and the bestselling author of Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself, featured as a #1 Amazon Bestseller for 16 consecutive months after its release, and Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse, featured as a #1 Amazon Bestseller in Applied Psychology.
Her work has been featured on Salon, HuffPost, Inc., Bustle, Psychology Today, Healthline, VICE, NYDaily News and more.
Her latest book, The Highly Sensitive Person’s Guide to Dealing with Toxic People, is available in all major bookstores and has been translated into 16 languages. At Harvard, she conducted the first large-scale research study on PTSD and relationship partners with narcissistic and psychopathic traits.
In addition to being a high-traffic journalist featured on numerous popular magazines and websites as well as an internationally bestselling author, Shahida has eight years of extensive experience in marketing, content creation, editing, and bringing viral organic traffic for media brands and businesses across social media platforms such as Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, YouTube, and more. She is a sought after influencer and writer for brands related to wellness, psychology, health, education, and pop culture.
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Real love and compassion aren’t about forgiving and forgetting your way through numerous transgressions, violations or betrayals. The most compassionate thing you can do for a toxic person is to hold them accountable for changing their harmful behaviors – and the most compassionate thing you can do for yourself is letting them go if they do not.
Shahida Arabi, Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse
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6 Of The Most Toxic Rom-Coms In Movie History That Romanticized Serious Red Flags
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9 Bone-Chilling Netflix Movies About Mind Games and Gaslighting
If these Netflix movies make you feel uncomfortable, they’ve done their job.
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10 Best Revenge Movies About Narcissists (Where the Victims Win)
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4 Movies About Toxic Limerence
When I first wrote about limerence back in 2018, many readers resonated with the idea of being in a “fantasy relationship” – becoming obsessed and fixated on a toxic relationship or “situationship” that is often unrequited, harmful, incompatible in some…
Why Men and Women Can’t Be “Just Friends”
The age-old concern continues to plague us: can men and women really be “just friends?” In cases where there is no form of attraction on either side, it is absolutely possible!
When Narcissists Say These 6 Phrases In Romantic Relationships, Here’s What They Really Mean
A researcher specializing in narcissism and psychopathy notes the six phrases you may hear from narcissists in romantic relationships and what they really mean.
Why Men Disappear Even When They Want You
For the most part, a man disappearing or withdrawing attention from you after showing extreme interest and attraction sends a mixed signal but a clear one: they are not the one for you.
8 Sci-Fi Romance Movies That Defy Time And Space (And Will Alter Your Brain Chemistry)
Sometimes love defies time and space — at least it does in science fiction romantic drama films.
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12 Power Plays Narcissists Use To Gaslight You
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