Do not question the timing of the healing process and how long it seems to be taking to heal.
You may think that once you have broken free from the gaslighter, he or she can do no further harm. This is just an invitation to more emotional battering.
She might look at herself and hold onto to a lot of baggage from her past but when she meets the right person they teach her other people’s problems aren’t hers to carry so heavy and she never deserved to be their emotional punching bag.
Is your partner kinder and more respectful to others in public than they are to you behind closed doors? Do you find that the way your partner treated you in the beginning of the relationship is unrecognizable from the way your partner treats you now?
Love does not mean co-dependency. Love does not mean pain and suffering and yelling and hurting and scars.
Narcissists don’t really love themselves. Actually, they’re driven by shame.
You have been mercilessly violated, manipulated, lied to, ridiculed, demeaned and gaslighted into believing that you are imagining things. The person you thought you knew and the life you built together have been shattered into a million little fragments.
We can relive and re-experience social pain more vividly than we can physical pain.
I will claim this title freely today; it’s given me boundless power and voice.
Narcissists use defenses to hide their deep and usually unconscious shame. Like bullies, they protect themselves through aggression and by wielding power over others.