Holly Riordan

Being single doesn’t make me a late bloomer. There is no timeline when it comes to love. Everyone moves at their own pace.

I want more friends — but I don’t want to do any of the things required to make friends. I don’t want to put myself out there. I don’t want to ask for phone numbers or send the first text. I don’t want to meet up for drinks. I don’t want to get stuck in conversation.

If you really want to work on loving yourself, if you really want to start treating yourself as a priority, then you have to accept you might lose some people along the way.

You’ve been falling for the wrong people lately. Your tastes need to change if you want to stop getting strung along and enter a strong, serious relationship.

You are never going to stop me from moving forward, from conquering my past, from healing from my pain.

When you love someone, spending a long time apart sucks, but it’s not the end of the world. After all, you know your person isn’t going anywhere. You know they aren’t going to do anything sketchy while you’re away. You know they’re going to be right there when you get back.

Positive: You are going to be hit with a burst of motivation that will propel your career in the right direction.  Negative: You will end up working such long hours that you will hardly have any time left over for self-care or socializing.

You have to accept that sometimes, even when people love you, they won’t be able to be present in your life as much as you would like.

When you get engaged, it’s not all ring selfies and pink champagne. 

I don’t want to send a text (to a friend who loves me). I don’t want to socialize (at a party that’s bound to be fun). I don’t want to leave the house (and drive to a job I’m lucky to have). 

When you’re always the one who cares more, who puts in the most effort, who sends the first text, it can kill your confidence. 

I would rather be overly picky about who enters my world than completely indifferent.

When you’re in a toxic relationship, it consumes you. It creates a chain reaction that influences every part of your world.

You might have been single for a long stretch of time. You might not have experienced  your first kiss yet. You might feel like you’re destined to remain alone — but you deserve love. 

You have to understand you’re only going to be in her world for as long as you’re a positive influence in her world.

I’m good at finding holes in stories. I’m good at recognizing when things don’t add up. If you are lying straight to my face, it’s only a matter of time until those lies get unraveled. 

Stay single while you’re trying to get over him. Give yourself some time to heal. Give yourself some time to think. Give yourself some time to grow. 

When arguments are done right, they’re actually healthy. They allow you to get your emotions out in the open. They allow your person to hear your side, to see your perspective.