Being Single Doesn't Make Me Lonely

Being Single Doesn’t Make Me Lonely

Being single doesn’t make me overly picky. I’m allowed to have high standards. I’m allowed to turn down people who offer me less than I’m looking to hold. I would rather stay single than settle for someone below my standards. I would rather hold out for someone who meets my expectations than jump into the first relationship I can find.

Being single doesn’t make me a late bloomer. There is no timeline when it comes to love. Everyone moves at their own pace. I’m not falling behind the friends of mine who are married with children. We’re simply at different points at our lives. We’re set to reach relationship milestones at different times. They’re not doing better than me. They’re only doing differently than me.

Being single doesn’t make me a failure. A specific relationship status is not the difference between successful and unsuccessful. There are plenty of people who are miserable in their relationships and plenty of people who are enjoying their single life. Their status alone means absolutely nothing.

Being single doesn’t make me a weirdo. There might be times when I feel like the only one in the world who hasn’t found their person — but that is far from the truth. There are millions of people out there who feel the same way as me, millions of beautiful souls who are still single.

Being single doesn’t make me lonely. I stay busy with my work, my family, my friends. I have plenty of different people and passions to keep me occupied on long, late nights. I’m not sitting around, longing for a relationship. If I happen to find someone who fits me, that’s great, but in the meantime, I’m perfectly happy spending time alone. I actually like having a bed to myself, a bathroom to myself, a heart to myself. I enjoy my own company.

Being single doesn’t make me lesser. Being a girlfriend or wife or fiance does not magically increase my value as a person. I am intelligent. I am attractive. I am interesting. I am enough. It doesn’t matter if anyone else sees my value as long as I see my value. Self-love is the only love I’m interested in right now.

Being single doesn’t make me unlovable. I recognize my positive traits. I realize I’m a catch. I’m not going to blame my looks or my personality for my single status. I’m not going to trick myself into believing there’s something wrong with me. Like a lot of others out there, I simply haven’t stumbled across the right person. There’s nothing more to it than that.

Being single doesn’t make me unhappy. I have much more to live for than a romantic relationship. I have a career. Passions. Hopes. Dreams. Friends. Pets. Family. Hobbies. I have a million reasons to wake up excited in the morning. I don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything by being single. I feel like I’m exactly where I’m meant to be at this moment in time. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

About the author

Holly Riordan

Holly is the author of Severe(d): A Creepy Poetry Collection.