A long time ago, she realized she had to start treating herself as a priority. She learned this lesson after relying on the wrong people, trusting the wrong people, putting her faith in the wrong people. They betrayed her, disappointed her, abandoned her — which taught her to look out for herself.
She learned the hard way that no one else is going to take care of her. She has to take care of herself. That’s why she’s so independent.
Of course, just because she puts herself first doesn’t mean she’s selfish. It doesn’t mean she’s going to screw you over because the only person she cares about it herself. She’s much kinder than people realize. She has a huge heart.
Putting herself first only means she isn’t willing to get taken advantage of anymore. If someone hurts her one too many times, she is going to walk away without worrying about hurting their feelings. She’s going to put her mental health before their comfort.
When you love a girl who puts herself first, you have to understand you’re only going to be in her world for as long as you’re a positive influence in her world. If you become a source of stress, someone who only makes her feel bad about herself, then she is going to walk away from you without a glance back.
When you love a girl who puts herself first, you have to treat her as an equal, because she will not let you get away with treating her like property. You cannot control her. You cannot tell her who she is allowed to text, what she is allowed to wear, where she is allowed to go. She makes her own decisions. She is her own person.
When you love a girl who puts herself first, you have to trust her enough to give her space. You cannot expect her to spend every second of every day with you. She has her own life. She has her own problems. She is a busy person — but if she cares about you as much as you care about her, she will set aside time for you. She will make sure you spend quality time together.
When you love a girl who puts herself first, you have to be okay with being second best. This doesn’t mean she’s going to mistreat you. It doesn’t mean she’s going to neglect you. It only means, when it comes down to it, she will always choose herself over the relationship.
If you cheat on her, don’t expect her to keep fighting for the relationship, because she will choose herself.
If you take advantage of her, don’t expect her to keep fighting for the relationship, because she will choose herself.
If you become a toxic presence in her world, don’t expect her to keep fighting for the relationship, because she will choose herself.
Of course, if you treat her right, if you give her everything she deserves, then she will be happy to return the favor.