Holly Riordan

It’s a fancy way for you to say, “I’m not willing to rise to your standards. I’m not willing to put effort into you. I would rather find someone willing to settle.”

You never let me creep too close. You shut down around me. You made sure the only vulnerable one in the room was me. 

Sometimes, you’re going to get into bad moods for absolutely no reason. Sometimes, you’re going to have a hard time snapping out of your funk. Sometimes, you’re going to wonder how it’s possible to know so little about your own mind and body. 

CANCER: She always shows up when you need her. She is reliable, trustworthy, dependable. 

When you date someone who doesn’t know how to handle your anxiety, it makes you feel unlovable. It makes you feel like something is wrong with you. It makes you feel like you’re not worth the effort. 

You can’t allow fear to stop you from living your life. No matter what path you choose, there are always going to be things that could go wrong. Even if you end up taking the safest route, there are no guarantees.

You expose them to the worst sides of yourself because you feel like you can be real around them. You feel like you can trust them. You feel like they aren’t going to abandon you, just because you happen to be in a bad place right now. 

Your person isn’t supposed to save you. They’re supposed to support you.

When you love someone, you don’t accuse them of being overdramatic or oversensitive. You don’t act like they’re making a big deal out of nothing. You don’t discredit their feelings, their fears, their struggles. 

ARIES: The way you feel right now isn’t the way you’re going to feel forever. 

When you end a relationship on bad terms, you have to accept you’re never going to get any closure.

Just yesterday, you were daydreaming about creating a future alongside this person. Just yesterday, you were talking and laughing together. Just yesterday, everything felt fine.

You fidget with your hands constantly.

It’s hard to get over someone when you aren’t sure why they walked away. It’s even harder to get over someone when you aren’t sure how they felt about you in the first place.

We have a hard time accepting our feelings are one-sided. We assume the other person must feel the same way about us, so we make up excuses about why they haven’t asked us out yet.

“I can’t leave because we have too much history.”

You don’t want to cross any boundaries and scare him off, so you’re careful about how much you text him. You’re careful about how emotional you get in front of him. You’re careful about how many compliments you give him.

You start wondering whether your friends even care about you since they haven’t realized you’ve been isolating yourself, they haven’t realized you’ve gone MIA, they haven’t realized anything is wrong.