Holly Riordan

Here are some of my favorite books I’ve read recently!

You shouldn’t wait for him forever because it’s not fair for you to be the one waiting, the one chasing, the one pouring all your love into him.

Maybe one day, you can add him back. Maybe one day, you can be friends again. But not right now. Right now, you need to keep your distance from him. You need to look out for yourself.

When you burn yourself out, it’s a warning sign you need to start doing something differently.

You don’t keep a tally of how many times your person has washed the dishes this week versus how many times you’ve done the laundry this week. You don’t count up their ‘failings’ in order to hold it over their head the next time you have an argument.

You don’t let the relationship seem one-sided. You don’t let their feelings seem one-sided.

No one is one-hundred percent confident one-hundred percent of the time.

Don’t push away people who care about you. Don’t assume everyone else hates you as much as you hate yourself. Don’t assume they’re only being nice to you out of pity.

Everyone has baggage. Everyone has bad habits. But not everyone talks about how grueling it is to heal yourself from them.

No matter how hard you fight for your relationship, it’s never going to last if you’re the only one putting in effort, the only one who cares whether or not you stay together. 

She doesn’t want to compete with your phone for your attention.

If you wake up in the morning with a list in your head — feed the dog, do the laundry, run on the treadmill, work eight hours, go grocery shopping — then you’re going to feel overwhelmed. You’re going to want to keep smashing snooze. You’re not going to look forward to the day ahead of you.

You should never try to shoulder your burdens alone because you’re only making things harder on yourself – and you’re damaging your relationship in the process.

You’re allowed to make mistakes in love. You’re allowed to screw up from time to time. No one is perfect and feelings are complicated. Love can compel you to do crazy things, to make bad decisions, to miss people who you should be happy to live without.

Sometimes, you need to ask yourself whether the people in your life deserve to be in your life. Sometimes, you need to reevaluate the relationships you’ve made. Sometimes, you need to wonder whether the people around you are actually good for you or are a poison.

You’re going to lose her if you forget how lucky you are to have her, if you take advantage of her soft heart, if you take every little thing she does for you for granted.

We would rather suffer on our own than burden our favorite people with our pain.

You aren’t built to stay in the same place forever.