Holly Riordan

You can’t have a conversation without bringing up sex. You can’t hang out without making out. You never have any deep, meaningful conversations. You never spend any quality, non-sexual time together. It’s all about your attraction.

He keeps coming up with more and more reasons to avoid making your relationship official. Maybe he really isn’t ready for a relationship right now because his heart is broken and he’s trying to heal. Or maybe he doesn’t want to make you his official girlfriend in case his ex wants to get back together again. Maybe he’s trying to stay available for her. 

Your self-esteem drops significantly.

You should be proud of yourself for failing because it means you tried. It means you took a risk. It means you put yourself out there.

Every time you text him, it ends in tears. Or stress. Or anger. Or disappointment.

VIRGO: You force yourself to be productive, even when you’re feeling under the weather or when your mental state is far from fine.

You’re better off alone than dating someone who undermines your feelings, who never takes your problems seriously, who thinks you’re too emotional for your own good.

It’s a fancy way for you to say, “I’m not willing to rise to your standards. I’m not willing to put effort into you. I would rather find someone willing to settle.”

You never let me creep too close. You shut down around me. You made sure the only vulnerable one in the room was me. 

Sometimes, you’re going to get into bad moods for absolutely no reason. Sometimes, you’re going to have a hard time snapping out of your funk. Sometimes, you’re going to wonder how it’s possible to know so little about your own mind and body. 

CANCER: She always shows up when you need her. She is reliable, trustworthy, dependable. 

When you date someone who doesn’t know how to handle your anxiety, it makes you feel unlovable. It makes you feel like something is wrong with you. It makes you feel like you’re not worth the effort. 

You can’t allow fear to stop you from living your life. No matter what path you choose, there are always going to be things that could go wrong. Even if you end up taking the safest route, there are no guarantees.

You expose them to the worst sides of yourself because you feel like you can be real around them. You feel like you can trust them. You feel like they aren’t going to abandon you, just because you happen to be in a bad place right now. 

Your person isn’t supposed to save you. They’re supposed to support you.

When you love someone, you don’t accuse them of being overdramatic or oversensitive. You don’t act like they’re making a big deal out of nothing. You don’t discredit their feelings, their fears, their struggles. 

ARIES: The way you feel right now isn’t the way you’re going to feel forever. 

When you end a relationship on bad terms, you have to accept you’re never going to get any closure.