34. Don’t expect him to like what you like
“You do realize I’m not a male version of you right?” He is his own person. He isn’t going to like everything that you like. Don’t expect him to want to be involved in every aspect of your life. Don’t expect him to know about everything you’re involved with. People forget and people can get things mixed up. Even if he does know what you do, that doesn’t mean he’s going to love it. Don’t expect him to have a desire to be involved in your book club or your debate. If you talked to a random person, they may not be interested in those things. Maybe he isn’t quite interested in them either. He has no obligation to be interested just because you’re in a relationship.
35. Defend him like you want him to defend you
“If I made your little friend cry you would bitch me out.” Have you ever been out and someone was being an ass to you? One of his friends offended you or said something slightly inappropriate about you? When he jumped in to defend your honor and made those guys leave you alone, didn’t you feel loved? Do the same for him. If your friends are bad mouthing him, defend him. Don’t let people insult him because if he says something back to your friends, he’s the asshole that’s mean to women. You shouldn’t want anyone being mean to your boyfriend. You love him so make sure he knows you don’t think the way they do of him.
36. Just accept that he won’t always put the seat down
“Just kick it.” I know it is an issue for us when we go into the bathroom and we fall into the toilet. He may not want to admit it, but when he goes in there to take a dump, he might fall in too. I know it’s simple for them to put it back down when they’re done but it’s also simple for us to look before we sit. I only put this on the list because I’ve dealt with this for years and it is much easier to just ask him to try to remember to put it down but if he forgets, I’ll put it down myself.
37. Don’t bring something up then say “nothing”
“I bet if I did it, she’d never get to sleep.” There aren’t many things that will drive him crazy as much as when you say something and if he didn’t hear you the first time, you say “nothing.” The only time they might not be annoyed by that is when you say it four or five times and they still don’t hear you. Just repeat it at least once or twice so they can hear it.
