26. Don’t ask him to do things that you wouldn’t do for him
“Screw you bitch!” This can have to do with sex or just favors in general. If you ask him to get you some water while he’s up but when he asks the same you tell him to get it himself, you’re being irrational. If you want oral sex performed on you but you won’t do it for him, you’re being a hypocrite. When you want him to make you something to eat but if he asks you to heat something up for him and you won’t do it, you’re being a hypocrite. If you won’t do it for him, don’t expect him to do it for you.
27. Don’t complain about him to your friends/family
“Now I look like the guy who throws kittens in the lake!” If you have a problem with him, the last thing you need to do is cry to your friends and family about it. Yes, it’s good to talk to someone on the outside to get feedback but you have to realize that they’re YOUR friends and family. They’re going to be biased and so are you. You’re going to make him out to be a bad guy when he isn’t. You want to talk to someone on the outside about it? Ok, bring him with you so he can give his side. Don’t run hysterically to a friend and make him out to be this bastard when you could very well be the one wrong here. It causes more drama than it needs to. Yes, I get it, they’re close to you but they don’t have to know everything about your relationship. Some things you can just work out on your own without having other people involved.
28. Don’t expect him to lose his friends
“I don’t deal with no controlling bitch.” If he had friends before he even met you, you have no business telling him he can’t have those friends anymore. Even if he gets new friends that you don’t like, don’t try to force him to get rid of them. You don’t have to like his friends and he doesn’t have to like your friends. He also doesn’t have to be approved by your “bestie.” If you don’t like his friends, the situation is as simple as don’t bother with them. If he has women that are friends, don’t constantly try to pry your way into his conversations with her because that’s you being insecure. If you don’t like a man having women as friends then don’t be with the man who has women as friends. If you have a real man, it will be nothing to worry about.
29. There isn’t always a hidden message
I mean what I ******* said. How the hell did you twist it into that?” Let’s say you do your hair and he comes in and says, “Your hair looks pretty today.” That doesn’t mean your hair isn’t pretty every other day. It just means that he noticed you changed your hair today and it looks pretty. Don’t pull messages out of what he says and say that’s what he meant. Men tend to be very straight forward and don’t hide behind certain phrases. When he asks if you need a new pair of shoes, he’s not saying your shoes are ugly and you need new ones. When he says that something you wear looks strange, it doesn’t mean that you yourself look strange. Here’s a general rule. If you have to ask,” Are you saying that I’m ____?” or “You meant to say that I’m ____ didn’t you?” then you are pulling hidden messages out of what he said. When he says you’re cute, adorable, sensitive, or kind, you don’t have to go ask people what it means. It doesn’t have a hidden meaning. It means what the words mean.
