43. Don’t stereotype him as the stupid man
“Guess that Dr. in front of my name means nothing to you.” Men are very often stereotyped as idiots that cannot work a stove without blowing up the house. We treat the men like we have things going on that their tiny minds cannot understand. We treat them like they’d live off frozen dinners if we weren’t around to cook for them. This isn’t true. I’m not saying there aren’t men like that but don’t you think it’s insulting to be thought of that way? You don’t want to be thought of as the weak and frail woman that can’t survive unless he’s there to protect you so don’t think of him as the dumb man that can’t cook without burning down the home.
44. It was just a dream, get over it!
“You mean to tell me I get **** because you went to sleep!” Whether the dream was about your wedding or him cheating, realize that it was just a dream. If you get mad at him because you had a dream that he was cheating on you then you are one of the stupidest women in this world. He can’t control what you have a dream about. I had a dream my boyfriend ate a doorknob but I don’t think he actually did it! Having a dream that you got married to him is nice but don’t think it means your relationship is ready for that step. Dreams are dreams. They can express a desire or just be extremely weird. Don’t think your dreams have this cosmic meaning that predict the future.
45. Don’t give ultimatums
“Or else? I’d like to see your face when I don’t give in.” If you give an ultimatum, you’re saying “If I don’t get what I want, I’m leaving. What I want is the only thing that matters. This relationship is only about what I want.” If you would dangle your relationship over his head then how seriously do you take it? Most of the time, ultimatums are about marriage. Marriage is a big step so if you’re ready then great but that doesn’t mean you have to force him to be ready as well. Do you want to marry someone who was forced into it? Do you want to marry someone who isn’t ready to be married but he’s only doing it because his controlling girlfriend threatened to leave if she didn’t get what she wanted? Instead of giving ultimatums, talk it out. If a compromise can’t be reached, maybe it’s time to leave.
46. If he has something planned, don’t interrupt it
“You knew about this for a week and suddenly you’re needy?” If your boyfriend has this big game night planned with his friends, don’t try to push your way into it. You don’t always have to be included. Unless you’re invited to it, don’t get involved and don’t get mad that you’re not invited. Not everything is about you and he doesn’t have to make everything about you. Don’t call in the middle of it just because you want to chat or see what he’s doing. If he plans something then you go plan something.
