50 Things Men Want Women To Know

16. Stop being so insecure

“I’m here aren’t I?” If you don’t like yourself, take comfort in the fact that he likes you. If you have a great guy, don’t bring him down by constantly questioning every aspect of your body and personality. If he tells you that you’re beautiful then accept it. He tells you that you’re a great person then accept it. He obviously likes something about you for him to stay around. Knowing this, don’t sit there and cry that he’s going to leave you for someone better all the time because if you keep it up, he just might. At that point, he may care for you dearly but good lord you’re depressing.

17. Stop being suspicious of him

“I thought about changing my mom’s name to Roxanne in my phone.” Stop constantly telling him that you know he’s cheating on you. Stop going through his phone, smelling his clothes, hiding in his trunk, following him, and sending people to spy on him for you. Don’t demand the password for all of his accounts or check his email when he’s gone. If your relationship has gotten to that stage then go ahead and leave. If you are really that positive that he is cheating on you then why the hell are you still with him? What I’d like to know is, what do you do if you catch him? Do you leave? The worst part about all that suspicion that the guy may be innocent and you ruined your relationship for your insecure reasons. Some very stupid guys will cheat just because you give them a reason to.

18. Stop finding every excuse to avoid sex

“You’re obviously not interested in me anymore.” A guy may understand that you don’t always want to have sex but is it really so bad for you to at least try to do it for them once a week? Don’t watch a show with him and as soon as a sex scene comes up, try to imply that you’re not in the mood. Don’t complain about a horrible headache ten minutes before you normally go to bed to avoid it. Don’t reject every advance he makes then get mad when he gets frustrated. Yes, it is true that men do not need sex, but don’t expect him not to wonder what he could have if he strayed away. No, I am not justifying cheating, I am justifying him feeling that he may need to find another woman. You cut him off of sex and expect him to be perfectly fine? No, that will not happen. They are going to want it and they are going to try to get it. You keep rejecting them, they’ll wonder why they should even stay. It is true that a relationship should not revolve around sex but sex should be at least a part of it.

19. Stop thinking that sex is the answer to everything

“I have a ******* brain! You think I’m gonna forget because you’re sexy?” Despite popular belief, a man is not a mountain of sexual energy. He is not a meat head that will forget everything that is wrong in the world when a pair of boobs is flashed in front of him. When you do something wrong, don’t just think that you can spread your legs and he’ll forget all about it. Don’t think that he’s always going to be in the mood when you are. Don’t treat him like a mindless sex crazed puppet. They’re not stupid.

20. Don’t tell him not to do something then do it yourself

“How come you can do it?” This can be something simple or something big. If you tell a guy that he can’t tickle you but then you turn around a tickle him, you come off as a hypocrite. If you tell him not to do something and then you do it, it’s almost like a slap to the face. It’s one of those, “I can do it but you can’t,” things. Just have the courtesy not to do something if you don’t want him to do it either. It’s the classic “Threat others how you want to be treated” rule.

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