I’ve been on dates when men who ask if I’ll spread my legs under the table so they can look under … an hour after we’ve met. I went on six incredible dates with a guy, only to tell me he wasn’t interested in “anything serious.” And then he started dating some other girl a few weeks later.
He’s the type people cite as proof that there definitely are good guys out there.
You can’t be in synch with another human being on every single day of your lives together.
If you had to live tomorrow on repeat for the rest of your life, what would you do?
Current research tells you optimistic people are happier and accomplish more. But you can be optimistic without being blind.
Sometimes love cannot outlast the sense that one or both of you isn’t following your ideal life plan.
Lift your head up, stay smiling and keep doing you for reasons that benefit you. People will generally appreciate you more for it, but most importantly, you’ll learn to appreciate yourself more.
Sex and romance can definitely still happen in the context of friendship-first dating, but they are never assumed or expected, and the top priority is always to understand and validate someone’s existing preferences and goals rather than imposing your own goals and expectations upon them.
People will either like you or they won’t, and that’s okay. Learn to like yourself instead.
Gaslighting is perhaps one of the most insidious manipulative tactics out there because it works to distort and erode your sense of reality; it eats away at your ability to trust yourself and inevitably disables you from feeling justified in calling out abuse and mistreatment.
Healthy people will understand your need to set boundaries. Only toxic people will argue them.
You’re supposed to be feeling conflicting emotions right now. That’s normal. Excited and terrified. Confident and completely lost. At peace with the end of your college career and totally heartbroken at the same time.
Are the glory days all over? At 21 years old? At 25 years old? But how I see it? You can “adult” however you want. You’re young. You’re still free to do whatever you please.
