
Ever ask yourself the question, âIs he serious about us?â Itâs easy to develop feelings for a man you’re dating and then wonder if heâs on the same page as you. While guys might not come out and say it right away, they do a lot of the same things when theyâre starting to see you as permanent part of their life.
Here are 17 signs heâs getting serious about you, in no particular order:
1. He has had a conversation with you about wanting an exclusive relationship.
This one sounds like a no-brainer, but the âassumed relationshipâ is common â and not something that you want to fall for. If he isnât trying to date you exclusively, he knows that you could meet someone else at any time and that doesnât bother him much.
2. He respects your opinion and regularly asks for it.
He listens and shows you respect. He remembers what you say and considers your advice.
3. Heâs honest and transparent.
A guy whoâs starting to feel serious about you will try to get everything out on the table so that he doesnât âmess things upâ with you.
4. He puts out all old flames.
A guy who sees a future with you will cut off contact with all flings and exes. He will turn his focus entirely on you and not allow other women to pop up and ruin everything.
5. Heâs excited about you when you arenât around.
If his friends and family report that he wonât shut up about you, this is a good sign heâs starting to have serious feelings for you.
6. He wants to get to know you on a deep level.
Heâs doesnât gloss over the little details you mention, and actually cares to listen to you talk about your childhood, your goals and your career. If you mentioned a big presentation at work, heâll ask how it went. He cares about what makes you tick and what youâre up to when he isnât around.
7. He makes plans with you in advance and sticks with them.
He wants to reserve time with you in advance and will make sure that he doesnât potentially mess up your relationship by suggesting everything at the last minute. He doesnât call you at 2am to hook up. He sees a future so he doesnât mind planning for it with you in it. He brings up events way in the future, like that concert in three months or how you will spend the holidays together.
8. He looks for ways to include you in his interests.
Nothing makes him happier than bonding over his favorite activities with his favorite person. If heâs interested in golf, tennis, refurbishing old cars, etc., he tries to include you somehow.
9. Heâs at a point in his life where commitment would work.
Marriage and commitment are in his long-term plan, and heâs at a point in his life when he might be ready to consider that. When guys are trying to get through school, get their careers off the ground or need to sow more wild oats, commitment is often the last thing on their mind. He must be at a point where heâs ready for a serious relationship to commit.
10. Youâve met his friends and family.
He has no qualms introducing you to his family and friends. He wants to show you off and isnât afraid of peopleâs reactions to you.
11. He tries to make a good impression when you introduce him to your people.
A guy who isnât serious will sometimes go along with meeting your people, but since he wonât view them as potential permanent forces in you life, he wonât make a big effort. A guy who wants to be with you long term will make a serious effort getting to know the important people in your life.
12. Heâs content waiting for physical intimacy and lets you initiate it.
Even if he was a serious player in a past life, he will be fine with taking it slow.You wonât feel pressure to hop into bed with him since he will value your company as much as a potential sexual encounter. He will treat you like a lady and not a hookup.
13. He is punctual and makes sure to apologize when heâs late.
He wonât leave you hanging. If something makes him late, he will do his best to let you know and try to make up for it.
14. He makes a spot for you at his place.
You donât have to worry about having a spot for your toothbrush. If heâs cleared out a space for you in his closet, you know heâs smitten.
15. He cares about your happiness, tries to help and is there for you.
If you need something, heâs your go-to guy. He is deeply interested in making you smile in any way he can.
16. He regularly initiates contact with you and you donât worry that heâs disappeared.
He texts, calls, and contacts you in ways that show heâs thinking about you. You donât have that sick feeling in your stomach that heâs pulled a Houdini.
17. Your time together feels easy and carefree.
You have fun together. You donât feel like conversation is difficult or forced. He helps make interactions with him easy.Â