Holly Riordan

The truth is, love isn’t convenient. It requires constant effort. It requires you to put in work every single day.

You shouldn’t have to convince them you have value. You shouldn’t have to convince them you’re worthy of being loved.

You could move on from them if you really tried, but the problem is, you never try for long enough. You always end up wanting them again, because even though they might disappear for a while, there is never a real goodbye. There is never an official ending to your story. There is never any closure. 

You made it this far because you are strong. You’ve been through hell and back. You’ve dealt with toxic situations, toxic humans, toxic thoughts. You’ve even warred with the demons deep within yourself.

If he likes you, he’ll find the time to talk to you even if he’s busy. Even if the conversation only lasts a few minutes before he has to get back to work again. 

The right person is not going to consider you clingy. They are going to be excited about all of the attention you give. They are never going to accuse you of coming across too strong. They are never going to make you feel like you need to tone it down.

You shouldn’t distance yourself from people who care about you, simply because you’re scared the past is going to repeat itself. You shouldn’t deprive yourself of the chance to build something real.

It’s going to be hard to get rid of the insecurities they’ve given you, the way they’ve warped your heart.

Progress is hard to spot from where you’re standing.

Remember, you can forgive a toxic human while still recognizing that you’re better off without them.  

You decided not to talk to me anymore. You decided our ‘relationship’ was over. But you don’t get to decide if it starts again.

When you’re texting them, you’re given the chance to develop a relationship that goes deeper than the superficial level. You’re able to really get to know them.

When you love someone, you should be there for them, no matter what emotion they are experiencing. You shouldn’t run away when they get too real with you. You shouldn’t flee at the first sign of genuine emotion. You shouldn’t make them feel like they are too clingy or dramatic or annoying, simply for sharing their thoughts with you.

Without effort, your relationship is going to fall apart, so make sure you’re playing your part. And make sure you aren’t settling for someone who refuses to do theirs.

Tell him how you feel because you deserve the chance to move forward — or move on.

We stay in our comfort zones because it’s the easiest option — but it’s not the safest option. It’s dangerous to settle. It’s dangerous to stay stuck in one place. It’s dangerous to pretend we’re fulfilled when our souls are secretly hungering for more.

It’s okay to move slowly. It’s okay if you need some time before trusting someone new when the last person shattered your heart. It’s okay if you aren’t ready to be so vulnerable again so soon.

You should be able to tell your forever person when you feel on the verge of breaking down. Or when you feel too overwhelmed to put anything else on your plate. You should be able to tell your forever person what is going on inside of you, because sometimes, appearances lie. Sometimes, even the people closest to us can’t see what we’re going through — not unless we let them see. Not unless we choose to be honest. Not unless we let down our guards completely.