In a strong relationship, you should feel comfortable talking through your emotions. You should feel encouraged to speak about what is going through your mind, what is concerning you, what is troubling you.
If you happen to have a problem with something your partner has said or done, you should feel comfortable talking to them about it to them without fear of the conversation escalating into an enormous fight.
You should feel confident that, no matter what is wrong, you are going to work it out. You are going to come to a compromise and fix the issue together — because you are a team. You are partners. You are in this thing together.
You shouldn’t feel compelled to hide what is bothering you in order to keep the peace. You shouldn’t feel like you have to walk on eggshells, otherwise your person is going to explode.
You shouldn’t feel like you need to hide any part of yourself, because your person should want to know how you’re feeling. Even if it hurts to hear what they’ve done to upset you, they should still want to hear it. They should still care about your opinion.
After all, if you never tell them what is wrong, they are never going to realize why you are upset. They are never going to have the chance to change their behavior. They are never going to be able to work toward bettering themselves — and sometime down the line, you are going to end up resenting them for it.
That is why your best option is to act straightforward from the start. Tell your person what is on your mind, even when the words are hard to say. Refuse to hold anything back, because in a healthy relationship, you should show them every side of yourself. You should be completely and utterly you.
Remember, you being honest about your feelings isn’t the same as you causing drama.
You shouldn’t feel like you’re doing your relationship a disservice by bringing up complaints, because really, your relationship would suffer more if you bottled everything up inside. If you pretended everything was fine. If you lied.
Of course, you don’t have to approach every problem in a vicious way. You can sit down and have a calm, measured conversation about whatever you’ve been thinking about lately. You can explain your feelings without getting into a screaming match.
Even though you might feel awkward bringing up the things that have been bothering you, you should rest assured that not every single problem in your relationship should lead to massive argument.
You should be able to talk to your person about things that you are unhappy about without them getting pissed at you, without them attacking you, without them accusing you of acting overly emotional.
When you’re with the right person, you are going to have hard conversations every once in a while, but those conversations aren’t going to pull you apart. In the end, they’re going to bring you even closer together.