If You Tell Them It Hurts You, And They Do It Anyway, They’re Not Your Forever Person

If You Tell Them It Hurts You, And They Do It Anyway, They’re Not Your Forever Person

Your forever person will never want to hurt you. They will hate themselves whenever they realize they’re the cause of your tears. They will want to make things better in any way they can — and they won’t want to take any shortcuts.

They won’t want to give you empty apologies, swearing they are going to change, in order to stop you from freaking out, and then go right back to their bad behavior. They will genuinely want to set things right. They will never want to see such a sad look on your face again, especially when they are the one who put it there.

Your forever person will want to better themselves in order to strengthen the relationship. They won’t resist change. They won’t stubbornly continue their unacceptable behavior. They will want to be the best possible partner for you. They will want to improve themselves, in big ways and little ways. They aren’t going to shy away from doing the right thing because they want to be a source of happiness for you, not a source of pain.

They mean it when they say they care about you, when they say they would do anything for you, when they say you’re worth the trouble.

Your forever person will want to know what’s on your mind. They won’t get annoyed with you for calling them out. They won’t accuse you of overreacting when they don’t like what you have to say about them. They won’t pretend you’re the problem when they are the one who messed up.

They’ll take responsibility for their actions. They’ll hear you out. They’ll want to know how you feel, what is running through your mind, how you would prefer for them to handle similar situations in the future.

They will want to talk to you, compromise with you, work out a solution with you. They won’t want to put you through the same heartache twice. They won’t want to repeat history if they can help it.

Your forever person will want to fix problems as soon as they arise. They will want to figure out new ways to strengthen the relationship. They will want to make sure your connection lasts forever. They won’t get annoyed when the time comes for them to put in more effort. They will not run away when they realize your relationship requires work.

If you tell them something hurts you, and they continue to do it anyway, they are not the right one for you. They are not good enough for you. They are not going to give you what you deserve.

Your forever person will want you to be happy. They won’t want you to settle. They won’t want you to let them get away with murder. They won’t want you to pretend everything is okay when you’re secretly miserable and starting to resent them.

They want you to be real with them. They want you to have high expectations for them. They want you to be genuinely, completely happy in the relationship. And they will put effort into making that happen, as long as you do the same. TC mark

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