Amira Abdel-Fadil

It was a blessing and a curse, because while I had to deal with my everyday life like everyone else, my emotions were a really big hurdle to navigate.

The truth is, our lives are actually a lot about the messy moments, our not-so-proud moments, our darknesses, and the fight we fight every day to overcome them. So when people act like there is nothing happening in their lives because it just might be too ugly or straightforward or unflattering, we end up normalizing people who always tell you predictable things. 

I think perhaps love should be more pragmatic than that. It’s finding someone who wants to struggle with you because they choose to.

Love means vulnerability. Love means putting yourself out there.

They look at you and can’t comprehend how it’s possible that you are allowing this.

I would like you to know that there isn’t a day that passes by where your memory is not lingering at the back of my mind.

Despite the darkest things they see, some people will walk into your life and love those parts you think are unlovable.

 I hope that when someone comes to speak to you about their trauma and grievance, you try to be a safe space for their trembling voice.

I hope you fall in love with someone who makes you feel seen for the beautiful person that you are in and out.

Sometimes pain is unkind and I am sorry that you had to witness that. 

Check on them randomly.

Part of feeling lonely is always rooted in how we respond and treat ourselves.