Gaslighting is perhaps one of the most insidious manipulative tactics out there because it works to distort and erode your sense of reality; it eats away at your ability to trust yourself and inevitably disables you from feeling justified in calling out abuse and mistreatment.
People are a combination of rainbows and water. An assortment of mellow colours that gets either diluted or saturated with values, opinions, perceptions, and attitudes, throughout the course of their lives.
“I tore the bag open and out flopped a fully developed, completely green, dead baby, with a very smushed head. You can imagine my shock; opening the bag, expecting to find shoes, clothes, maybe a wallet, and instead a tiny human plopping out.”
Let’s be friends for the narcissist means let’s be friends — with benefits. Don’t fall for the “let’s be friends” ploy. Doing so will land you straight in La La land, where you will spend months, if not years, tolerating their multiple sex partners, disappearing acts, and your making monthly visits to the doctor’s office to ensure you haven’t contracted an STD.
“The man that murdered my cousin. They were dating and when she tried to leave him, he killed her. We had all met him, he seemed like a completely normal and down to earth dude.”
“I feel like most girls don’t quite grasp how little society in general cares about the average man.”
You want it to work, you really do. You swear things between you two would be amazing if only he would stop doing this and start doing that instead.
“Men are utterly disrespected and disposed of regularly by society, but the propaganda claims otherwise.”
If they’re not in an emotional space where they can handle further responsibilities, it might be a considerable wait before they’re ready to settle down
He wishes he could reassure her more but to do so would be telling her the truth, then she might not rate him as worthy of her trust at all.
By beginning fresh, you are making the choice to reinvent yourself. You are choosing to ditch the excuses of why you aren’t happy. You are taking your sad stories of failure and creating a place to start moving towards that Happily Ever After.
You know an Aries is sad when they don’t get worked up about things that would normally make them angry.
Where all else fails, simply avoid them altogether. Reduce contact, limit conversations with him/her, hang out with others if it’s a group outing, or as a last resort – cut him/her out of your life.
Anxious — Accept that pain is part of life, and it’s especially part of a life well-lived. You’re going to have to risk being hurt if you want a chance at really being loved.
“Through all the lies and the self destructive behavior, you realize you’re actually doing a drug. Habitual cheating is exactly like drug use. It benefits no one but you and your selfish needs. Then when you get off of it, you’re always one step away from relapse.”
