Maya Kachroo-Levine

Trying online dating. It’s going down, I’m yellin’ Tinder.

An age-old tale. Couple gets together. Couple goes strong. Couple gets three years in, isn’t living together, and one party is v concerned that their relationship is going nowhere and that the second party is pulling away from them.

Which one of your friends did they have a huge crush on?

Give yourself permission to approve your own actions, instead of asking someone else for validation.

“I gave the bride her something borrowed. But I didn’t tell her it was from my marriage that didn’t work out…”

You shouldn’t have to convince someone to want you. You shouldn’t have to settle for “almost” when you want a “yes.” You shouldn’t have to be all-in, when someone else is still on the fence. You don’t want to be stuck in love-adjacent limbo when you could have the real thing.

Be hungry for love, but don’t be thirsty about it. In short: get into a relationship because you want to be with that one person, and not just because you want to be in any relationship.

The “one” isn’t waiting for you with the glass slipper that fits you perfectly. The one is someone you choose, because you know when you’re with them, that’s exactly where you want to be.

If you don’t, you will stay hung up on this feeling; you’ll remain in this sentimental limbo, playing “should I, or should I not” with yourself, and you have better things to do with your time than become a slave to your inner monologue.

We can love someone, and love the feeling of being with someone, and they can still be the wrong person.

It’s difficult to accept that someone can be attracted to you, and love you as a friend, but still not want to date you. And when you feel it for them, it makes you feel like you’re in the wrong when they don’t feel it for you. Accepting that you can’t change a person’s feelings is nearly impossible, but it isn’t your fault.

“Real courage is when you know you’re licked before you begin, but you begin anyway and see it through no matter what.” ― Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird

Their television show requirements. For example, they might be willing to negotiate their binge-watch go-tos, but if they are non-negotiably following Game of Thrones, you might want to consider hopping on that bandwagon.

Download Boomerang and schedule out emails. It will save your life.

“There is always light at the end of the tunnel. That light is within me.”

Wake up five minutes earlier than your partner and put the coffee pot on and frozen waffles in the toaster.

“I want him to make me laugh the first time I meet him. And I don’t mean I want to be treated to a standup comedy show the first time I meet someone, but I need to know that you have a sense of humor, because I know that’s something I find really attractive.”

I will stop questioning my worth and trust that I bring value to myself and those around me.