Kim Quindlen

Cancer: Being on a date with someone who’s rude and abrasive with the waiter, who comes off as distant and aloof, and who makes a joke every time you ask a question that’s in any way personal or deep.

Libra: Wait for the guy who never makes you feel like you have to dull your spark for him – the guy who’s not at all intimidated by how loved and charming you are, and the guy who will always care 100% more about being honest with you than he does about impressing you.

Taurus: Zero trust in each other.

Libra: Never feeling smothered or inhibited.

They let anger from the little things – traffic, long lines, loud people on the train – wash over them for a few seconds, and then they let it go.

Aquarius: You sabotage your happiness by never letting yourself jump fully in. Your tendency to remain aloof and detached has always protected you from feeling vulnerable or getting hurt, but it’s also prevented you from experiencing some truly wonderful highs

Quality Time: Stay single until you meet the person who makes you feel the most like yourself, because whenever you are with them, the walls come down, and all that exists is just the two of you together, enjoying one another’s company and being 100% yourselves.

Libra: Stay single until you meet someone who only makes you burn brighter – someone who’s not intimidated by how many people love you and someone who doesn’t care if you do your own thing.

Gemini: Feeling like you have to put on a facade in front of your partner and like you have to keep all your anxieties and stresses to yourself.

Bet on a guy who makes you feel comfortable enough to open up about your darkest thoughts, your greatest shames, your most fragile insecurities. Bet on a guy who makes you feel lighter for sharing these things with him – not more unsafe or more in danger of being unloved because of your imperfections.

Leo: Spending lots of time together but still having lots of alone time in order to relax and recharge, being with someone who’s highly intelligent and can have really interesting conversations with you, and always setting aside space for your individual goals and career aspirations. 

You never let yourself feel complacent or overly satisfied. When you’ve accomplished something, you give yourself permission to celebrate, but after an appropriate amount of time, you’re on to the next thing – always focusing on the future and how you can grow.

You wouldn’t change a thing about the absolute trust and faith you have in them, but it does feel weird to be so completely unguarded with another person after you’ve been so protective of your heart for so long.

That feeling when you absolutely weren’t expecting to find something funny but then this huge, wonderful bubble of laughter comes out of you.

“I get so much joy out of sneaking peeks at him while he’s reading a book. He makes such funny, expressive reactions and it just makes me laugh and love him more. But I’ll never tell him that, because I don’t want him to ever stop doing it or become self-conscious of it.”

Libra-Scorpio (10/19-10/25): You understand who you are.

“The good friends will be happy for you when you’ve found a great person. The bad friends will try and convince you you’re getting ‘wifed up’ because they’re afraid of you moving on and growing up without them.”

“You’re not going to change him. Stop thinking you’ll be different than anyone else that’s ever dated him.”