This Is How Each Zodiac Sign Sabotages Their Chance At Happiness Without Even Trying To

Jacalyn Beales


(March 21st to April 19th)

You sabotage your happiness by holding your life to an absurdly unrealistic standard. You convince yourself that you can only maintain a go-go-go attitude, and that every second of every day must be filled with an Instagram-worthy adventure – instead of allowing yourself to slow down once in a while, to look around you, and to just enjoy the little things in life.


(April 20th to May 21st)

You sabotage your happiness by expecting, and needing, everything to always go your way. You have a hard time being flexible and adapting to situations that have gone differently than you imagined – you’ve convinced yourself that it’s your job to make everything perfect and make everybody else happy, but what you need to realize is that life is completely unpredictable. You can’t control situations and you can’t control people – all you can do is be a supportive, loyal, hardworking, and warm person. The rest is out of your hands.


(May 22nd to June 21st)

You sabotage your happiness by constantly seeking validation from others. It’s human instinct to want to fit in and be liked, but you let yourself get so wrapped up in what other people think that it causes you a tremendous amount of unnecessary stress, anxiety, and insecurity – you’d be much better off if you worked on searching for your self worth outside of other people.


(June 22nd to July 22nd)

You sabotage your happiness by letting other people walk all over you. You have a tremendous amount of empathy for others, but you also have a difficult time detecting when people are taking advantage of you or treating you like a door mat. Your overall quality of life will skyrocket when you start concentrating on sticking up for yourself and surrounding yourself with the kinds of people who love you for you, not what you can do for them.


(July 23rd to August 22nd)

You sabotage your happiness by refusing to ask for help. Your strength and your bright outlook on life are huge sources of pride for you and they should be – but they can also cause you a lot of pain and anxiety by making you feel like you always have to be strong and self-sufficient. The best thing you can do for yourself is to learn how to be okay leaning on those you love, and how to be at peace with the fact that you’re human and that it’s impossible to operate at 100% every day of your life.


(August 23rd to September 22nd)

You sabotage your happiness by obsessing over something that doesn’t exist: perfection. Your intelligence and conscientiousness are wonderful qualities to have, but you need to remember that you can’t be successful, in control, and put-together all the time. You need to give yourself a break and let yourself have a little room for error – that’s the only way you can really continue to grow.


(September 23rd to October 22nd)

You sabotage your happiness by trying to be loved by everyone. You put way too much pressure on yourself to keep the peace, to make sure everyone is always getting along, and to keep everyone else happy. Your relationships matter a great deal to you and that’s wonderful, but you don’t always have to be the chill, easygoing one. When you’re upset with a friend or when you’re struggling with being hurt by someone, you should address it and stand up for yourself. You can be a source of love and joy for others, but you have to love yourself first.


(October 23rd to November 22nd)

You sabotage your happiness by holding on to grudges and refusing to let things go. It’s one thing to have standards and to believe that you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect – that’s great and even necessary. But it’s another thing to be continuously resentful, stubborn, and inflexible every time someone screws up. You need to remember that everybody makes mistakes, and as long as they apologize and take responsibility, you need to just let it go and move on – you’ll feel a lot happier, and a lot lighter, this way.


(November 23rd to December 21st)

You sabotage your happiness by never letting yourself fully release your emotions. You’ve always been the positive, energetic, optimistic person, but because of that, you’ve taken on the unnecessary pressure of feeling like you always need to be happy, okay, and ‘on’ for everybody else. You never need to lose your wonderful, contagiously light outlook on life, but you also need to remember that you are allowed to struggle, you’re allowed to feel not okay sometimes, and you’re allowed to open up to others when you’re struggling.


(December 22nd to January 20th)

You sabotage your happiness by convincing yourself that you must color inside the lines. Your work ethic and your ambition are totally admirable qualities and you should never let go of them, but you also need to remember that you can still be successful in life by trying new things and listening to your gut – even if it takes you down a path that is slightly different from those paths of the role models you’ve always tried to emulate. Give yourself some breathing room to try new things, take risks, and let your secretive humorous side come out.


(January 21st to February 18th)

You sabotage your happiness by never letting yourself jump fully in. Your tendency to remain aloof and detached has always protected you from feeling vulnerable or getting hurt, but it’s also prevented you from experiencing some truly wonderful highs that can only happen when you open yourself up to the possibility of failure or rejection. You need to give yourself permission to want things, to openly want things, and to care enough about something that you’re willing to go after it, and possibly fail – without caring that others are watching.


(February 19th to March 20th)

You sabotage your happiness by only letting yourself think small. You’ve never lacked compassion or kindness, but you’ve also never let yourself fully concentrate on your dreams and what you want. It’s always been about other people and how you can help them. What you need to do is make some room for yourself in your own life. You don’t have to let go of your selflessness or your caring for others – you just have to make sure you always leave space in your life to care about yourself and your own dreams, too. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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