12 Women Share The Crucial Dating Advice They Wish They Could Give Their Younger Self

Drew Patrick Miller

1. “Demand honesty from the beginning.”

–Cassandra, 35

2. “Make sure he’s not asking you to take him back simply because he can’t find anything better. Be very, very careful about this.”

–Erika, 28

3. “Absolutely do not compare your relationship to anyone else’s ever. Everybody’s love life is supposed to be different, that’s the nature of the beast.”

–Janelle, 31

4. “Games seem fun and exciting short-term. But long-term, they will make you absolutely miserable.”

–Alicia, 30

5. “If a guy wants to be with you, he will be with you. Don’t let him (or yourself) make any other excuses for it.”

–Cristina, 34

6. “He can make you very happy, but he cannot be the only source of your happiness and contentment. You need a life outside of him. That is absolutely key to your happiness and to the health of your love life.”

–Joan, 31

7. “Have standards, but while in a relationship, also remember that you are not perfect.”

–Leah, 33

8. “You’re not going to change him. Stop thinking you’ll be different than anyone else that’s ever dated him.”

–Whitnie, 29

9. “Look for someone you can talk to. Attraction will be there, but not during every moment of your relationship. So it’s important to find someone you feel connected to outside of looks.”

–Deirdre, 30

10. “If he’s already making you feel insecure in week two, shut it down.”

–Cynthia, 34

11. “Stay active, do a lot of different things, have hobbies outside of work. That’s going to highly increase your chances of meeting people.”

–Mallory, 28

12. “Be yourself. You don’t want somebody to fall in love with a person that isn’t you. The reality always comes out.”

–Rachael, 32 Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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