Holly Riordan

Sometimes, you have to accept what happened, even if you don’t understand what happened.

When he told me he liked me — but wasn’t ready for a relationship right now. I didn’t spend too much time worrying about the implications. All I heard was that he had feelings for me too. All I heard was he might be ready to date me at some point in the future.

You aren’t going to know you’ve found the right person the moment you lock eyes. You are going to need some time to get to know each other, to learn about each other, to see whether you make sense together. 

Everyone is afraid of feeling too much and pushing the other person away with their intensity — and they end up pushing the other person away with their indifference instead. 

Your loneliness is going to pass — but the horror of texting an ex is going to linger for a long time.

Being single doesn’t make me a late bloomer. There is no timeline when it comes to love. Everyone moves at their own pace.

I want more friends — but I don’t want to do any of the things required to make friends. I don’t want to put myself out there. I don’t want to ask for phone numbers or send the first text. I don’t want to meet up for drinks. I don’t want to get stuck in conversation.

If you really want to work on loving yourself, if you really want to start treating yourself as a priority, then you have to accept you might lose some people along the way.