You would never want to put someone in that dark room of sadness; with that little monster that tells them they’re not worth getting out of bed. Think about the people who love you. Call them.
Growing up in an Asian family can be quite difficult sometimes, especially if your elders follow the traditional way of thinking very strictly. We are taught to follow and uphold our traditions. Some of these traditions can be as simple as not wearing black to family gatherings, to something as complicated as the ceremonies that we must do before getting married.
Stay focused. Keep your breath. One foot in front of the other. Turn left, turn right, eventually loop back to where you started.
“I started college this year. I cried in my dorm alone as soon as my parents left.”
The term “black sheep” is not always used to determine a different color sheep than the rest of the herd. It can also be used as a term of a family member who is not like the rest.
I still am not sure if I was crying more at his death, or for the fact that I allowed him to pass away without giving him a chance to know me and I, him.
These real accounts of bizarre familial traditions will convince you that there really is no normal.
Today I packed up, changed all my plans, and got on the train. I watched people kiss in Grand Central. I’m watching the leaves. I’m watching the water.
The truth is I don’t know if this will ever stop hurting. But what I do know is that I can finally focus in the moments where some beauty, or kindness, or compassion reminds me of her. In those instants I feel my mom’s strength and I remember what she always wanted me to be: happy.
Everyone lives with their noses in everyone else’s business. Big families love to know what’s going on in each other’s lives.