Shahida Arabi
Shahida is a graduate of Harvard University and Columbia University. She is a published researcher and author of Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse and Breaking Trauma Bonds with Narcissists and Psychopaths. Her books have been translated into 16+ languages all over the world. For more inspiration and insight on manipulation and red flags, follow her on Instagram here.
30 Kickass Affirmations For Going No Contact With An Abusive Narcissist
I love myself. Truly and always, I love myself. And for the first time in a long time, I am putting myself first.
Narcissistic Rage: This Is What Happens When You ‘Discard’ An Abusive Narcissist First
They may romanticize the relationship and re-idealize you, taking back all their hurtful words and actions in one fell swoop (or cleverly constructed text message).
Dear Abuser: I Am The Revolution You Never Expected
I am the truth, your karma, the revolt — I am the resistance, the pieces you tried to keep shattered, coming back together again.
The Pathological Envy Of Narcissists Reveals How Powerful Their Victims Are
Survivors have to regain the certainty that the reason they experienced such a pathological reaction was because they were so powerful in the first place.
10 Life-Changing Truths Abuse Survivors Should Embrace
You don’t have to justify to anyone the reasons you didn’t leave right away.
5 Damaging Lies We Learn From Narcissistic Parents
Falsehoods about parents always being loving and having our best interests at heart simply do not cut it when it comes to manipulative, toxic and abusive parents.
7 Spiritual Ideas That Enable Abuse And Shame The Victim
Philosophies that depict pain as an illusion rather than a legitimate, lived reality can be downright dangerous. They encourage victim-blaming and spiritual bypassing that harms the survivor more than they help. What we have to remember is that our perceptions of trauma are not due to erroneous thinking – they are due to egregiously damaging acts of emotional and physical violence.
Five Ways We Rationalize Abuse And Why We Need To Stop
The abuse cycle relies on hot and cold, mean and sweet behavior, which means nice actions after an abusive incident cannot be taken at face value, but rather as embedded in a chronic pattern of behavior.