18 People Talk About What It Feels Like To Be An Introvert

17. Craig Inskip

It’s difficult being an introvert when everybody thinks you’re an extrovert. Let me explain, i am most definitely introverted. I love being in my own head, i love to read, to watch a good movie etc and find most other people’s company an effort.

However, when i am around others, i have the tendency to be the one who is fun, chatty and jokey. I don’t enjoy being out but when i am, this is just how I am. That makes people think i’m an extroverted person and so they want me to go places like out to bars etc. I often say no and people don’t understand it.

I love my little world. It can have occasional scary little thoughts bit overall I love that I am so self sufficient and happy with my own company.

18. Kalei Libby

It feels lonely because a lot of people don’t understand what it means to be introverted. I feel more like I’m being judged for what is normal for an introverted person to do. Sometimes I don’t like to talk. I could be on the phone forever and not care one bit about “awkward silences”. I think a lot. But I don’t always voice my thoughts.

When I leave a gathering early because I’m exhausted by the energy I’m spent; when I choose to stay in on a Friday night because I don’t want to spend the energy talking to 50 strangers. It’s not that I don’t like to meet new people, I DO! I love it. I just function a lot better in a small group of friends that understand me and how I act normally.

I feel judged. A lot. I know I shouldn’t care about what other people think about me, but I do. In a social setting, I like to take a back seat to the conversation and just listen. But then everyone assumes I’m not having a good time, which makes it even more exhausting because I have to assure them that I am, and put more energy into making it seem like I am.

Can I say that I hate small talk? I’m more interested in how you think, or why you do the things you do. I’ll ask a lot of questions if you let me.

There are people in my life that I cherish to the core because they have taken the time and effort to get to know me as a person and love me for who I am. I’m not even sure if these people know it, but I would do anything they asked me to do for them. I just prefer to feel comfortable in a setting with just you than all these people that I don’t know.


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