I Only Want An Old School Love


The internet has ruined many things that used to make love special. I miss the way love used to be spoken about, and written about. I only see it in old black and white movies now. I only see it in dusty, worn out photographs of my great grandparents. I don’t see old school love anymore. In fact, I’ve never truly have seen it or experienced it. 

To me, old school love means treating people with respect and dignity. It means not taking advantage of someone on the first date. It means not even expecting a first kiss.

Old school love is patient and slow. It is never rushed to go to the finish line. It is never dirty.

I want a love that revolves around conversation. I want to talk to someone for hours on end, face to face, and to not have the distraction of a phone or a laptop. I want to laugh, until my stomach hurts, and make my date laugh even harder. I want that old school type of love that doesn’t need technology to fall in love. I want to find someone who just wants to simply converse with me. And I want to find someone who loves doing that too.

I want a love that is patient. I don’t want to date a guy who expects to sleep with me on the first date, or the third date. I want a love that recognizes respect as the foundation of a trusting and beautiful bond. I want to meet someone who doesn’t even ask. And who puts that in my hands without judgement or urgency. I want the old school kind of love that takes sex seriously.

I want a love that is honest.

I don’t want a guy who doesn’t listen to what I have to say. I don’t want to date a guy who only talks about himself. I want to meet someone who will let me know how he is feeling, when he is feeling. I need someone who will me the truth even if it is hard to do. And I want him to say it to my face instead of through a screen.

I don’t care about if he tags me in his “WCW” Instagram post. I don’t care if he professes his love to me on Twitter or Facebook. Truth be told, that means nothing to me.

I care about things happening in real time to real people. And I want to find someone who wants that too.

I want the kind of love that isn’t wrapped up in everybody else. With so many distractions in this world, it is so easy to forget about the most important things in life. I want someone who will silence his phone when he goes on a date with me. I want someone who will actually look at me when I talk to him. And I want the kind of love that is precious, because I know it is real. 

Maybe at this day and age, it’s too much to ask for. And maybe it’s too much to hope for. But, I’ll keep on dreaming of a old school love. No matter what they all say. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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Lauren Jarvis-Gibson

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