When you start really thinking about what you do control, you start to realize that the circumstances aren’t the question. The question is: what are you going to do now?
Life is about more than work and marriage and success. It’s about being a good person. It is about appreciating every person that enters and exits your life whilst you have them. It is about living a wholesome life tailored to you. It’s about making mistakes and learning from them. It’s about falling in love with the wrong people so when the right ones come along you know how to appreciate them.
Do everything you possibly can as a human to make other people’s lives easier, but please do not do this at cost to yourself or your mental health, no matter what anyone says.
You forget to see how much they hurt, how much they are bleeding, how intricately and complicatedly human they are. You don’t understand why they seem to bleed off the canvas in their flaws.
Turning 20: A New Beginning. In my experience, turning 20 was a major milestone. It felt huge and sentimental and bizarre. It’s the end of your teens, your adolescence.
This is not a battle of who is a good and bad person. This is a battle of owning your own darkness and light. This is taking ownership of yourself.
Let me tell you a secret: As long as you are trying, you are doing just fine.
Your scars will tell the stories your lips cannot.
When the world has torn into you and left your kindness in shreds, when the unfairness of the world itself gets to you, I need you to remember this. You are needed.