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If You’re Struggling With The Aftermath Of A Breakup, Read This

We don’t talk about the aftermath of a breakup enough. This is for all the readers that have felt the experience of a breakup or currently going through the process.

You are going to be okay.

You will get through this.

You are still amazing and it is not your fault.

Breakups can end in various ways. You will feel the pain. It will hurt and the struggle will pile up as if you think the world is just crumbling down on you. Problems on problems. Sometimes you’ll have nights where you can’t sleep and days where you don’t want to get out of bed. It’ll even distract you from doing your daily routine and make you feel less productive, like you’re unable to study for exams or focus on your job, and like you can’t help but be antisocial with your family and friends.

You’re reading this because you needed something to pick you up and give you hope. This is just the reality of a breakup. Hang in there. Time will heal everything you’re going through. Right now, almost everything or anything so simple can remind you of them. You’ll hear a song, watch a movie, do something that’ll instantly run a flashback of you two together at that moment. And this is okay. This is normal. You are human. If you need to vent to your family and friends, then do it. If you want to keep it to yourself, then keep it to yourself. As the days pass by, you’ll have waves of being okay, and then you’ll suddenly be sad all over again. One thing is for sure: Don’t let it take over you. Don’t let a breakup be a reason or excuse to feel miserable. This is not the end of the world, just the end of a world.

Here are some tips you can focus on if going through a breakup:

Talk about it with someone, whether that’s your best friend or even a new friend.

Keep yourself busy. Go out and make plans whether that’s a weekend trip or casual dinners.

Work out, drink water, and eat right. This can be a huge help for mental and physical health!

Don’t reach out to your ex right away or at all. This is a common thing to do after a breakup.

Don’t drink too much alcohol.

Keep your room clean.

Listen to your favorite music.

Try to journal and meditate. Go ahead and treat yourself to a massage too.

Get enough sleep every night.

LOVE YOURSELF. This is the time to do it.

Here are some tips for your mindset to have moving forward:

Let it go. Things happen for a reason and you broke up for that reason.

Be expressive with your emotions. It’s okay to feel them during this time.

Don’t play the victim and quit blaming yourself and your partner.

Forgive them and yourself. Your relationship was built from love—remember that.

Take it day-by-day and focus only on the present.

It can take you weeks, months, and even years to get over someone. But you’ll be okay. Each day will get easier for you. Now is the time to become independent and truly fall in love with yourself. The aftermath of a breakup is tough, but it’s only temporary.

Wipe your tears.

Keep your head up.

You’re stronger than you think.

Focus only on the good things.

Continue to love often. Be the best version of yourself.

And don’t forget to smile through it all.

About the author

Kyle Lautan

I write about self-love, dating, relationships, and mental health.