Kovie Biakolo

Love would never be easy for “women like me.” Difficult women – that is.

“Stay away from people who make you feel like you’re hard to love.”

Your almost-relationship can be the thing that gives you growth, teaches you a lesson about love or life or something in between. It’s not a badge of shame or a reason to feel embarrassed. Remember that every time you have the courage to put your heart on the line, and offer it to someone, you are brave. Don’t stop being brave.

When it comes to dating, there is nothing shittier than giving people false hope. It is better to be an “asshole” for telling someone you’re not interested in them or you’ve lost interest in them, than to keep them in an emotional purgatory where they think they have a chance.

You’re always the one reaching out, making plans, making an effort, and showing up. And deep inside you know if you stopped doing these things, the relationship would in fact, come to a screeching halt.

“Keep bleeding. Keep, keep bleeding love. I keep bleeding. I keep, keep bleeding love.”

You realize perhaps more easily than you would if you saw them all the time, that your parents are not just your parents. They were people with dreams, and hopes and fears, and baggage. And they are getting older with all those things. As are you.

1. “Honestly, one reason to get hitched at some point in life is so that someone can actually be there when you’re sick. This blows.”