Kim Quindlen

Making people feel like they are worth something is so much easier than we think. It doesn’t require power, or wealth, or spoiling them rotten with gifts. What it requires is simply making them feel like a person.

Set timers on your phone. See how much stuff you can get done in 10, 20, and 30 minute increments. The competitive side of you will kick in and attempt to race the clock.

Gemini: Someone who is rooted in routine and habit, is inflexible to change, and would rather sit on the couch and play video games than go out and explore the world and get to know you on a deeper level.

If you’re at home together, you’ll often go into the same room as them, not because you need to talk or you want to hang out – you just love to be around them.

Convincing yourself that it’s necessary to stay at a job you hate in order to pay the bills, to show up to work every day feeling exhausted before it’s even begun – thereby allowing yourself to confuse ‘misery’ with ‘responsibility.’

Aquarius: You’re not about appearances or trying to be someone you’re not, so the whole ‘everyone trying to paint themselves in the best light’ thing completely exhausts you. Especially when it comes to online dating.

Enough self-confidence to not feel threatened or intimidated by her ambitions and her success.

“i wish they made a tinder for people who were hungry so u could match with other hungry people and go for food.”

“That she’s ambitious. I know there are a lot of douchebags who are threatened by that sort of thing but there’s also a lot of us who love that and are looking for girls like that.”

Libra: Your desire for freedom and independence can sometimes make people think you’re disinterested in them, so it’s important for you to explain that just because you love to be free and adventurous, it doesn’t mean you don’t also want a partner.

Any time you order a drink without being carded, the server or bartender always gives you an “Alright, I’ll let this one slide, kid” kind of look.

“I kept saying I didn’t want anything serious or exclusive so she said ‘okay’ and then I saw her at a bar with this dude who I knew was super into her and I realized this thing worked both ways. Seeing her with him drove me nuts. So we became exclusive.”

Capricorn: A relationship in which you both can focus on your individual goals and ambitions without having to sacrifice your closeness to one another.

He doesn’t assume you’ll be full after two spoonfuls of food. On the contrary, he’s probably seen each of his sisters individually throw back half a pizza without breaking a sweat.

Consciously or unconsciously creating a timeline that your relationship milestones must follow, based on the way that other people’s relationships have moved along.

Meeting someone and knowing immediately in your gut that you’re going to be friends.

Pisces: Finding a new show and literally bingewatching the entire series in as short of a time as possible – while wrapping yourself in the warmest blankets you can find and eating the best comfort food imaginable.

The little things always seem little at the time, but years down the line, you will realize that they are what make up the very essence of your relationship.