Holly Riordan

This doesn’t mean you should start hating yourself for everything you’ve done wrong. It doesn’t mean you should mope about what a screwup you are either.

Just because you’re afraid of reaching the next milestone doesn’t mean you’re with the wrong person.

You don’t want to jump into a relationship you’re not ready for and end up hurting the other person. But you don’t want to run away on a whim and end up hurting yourself either.

Before you text him back, decide whether you really want to reopen old wounds. Decide whether you really want to risk getting your heart broken by him again.

Stop spending time with people who make you feel worse about yourself, people who never have anything nice to say about you, people who never compliment you but always save time to criticize you.

You don’t want to end up falling deeply in love with someone and dedicating years of your life to someone, only to wake up one day and realize you have completely different ideas of happiness. 

If you’ve been working your ass off, it’s not your fault if no one takes notice.

When you’re ready to move on, you shouldn’t feel guilty about the people you’re leaving behind. You should be making decisions based on what is best for your own future, your own happiness, and your own mental health. 

Your forever person might not know the right steps to take to calm you down when you’re spiraling — but that doesn’t mean they are never going to understand your anxiety.

The end of your relationship isn’t the end of your happiness. In fact, you’re going to feel better shedding yourself from the wrong relationship than you would have felt fighting for the wrong relationship. 

Every time you reach a new goal, you’ll stop stressing about old things, but you’ll have new things to stress about.

Leo – You need to change your focus. You need to stop pouring all your energy into the wrong people and pursuits. 

You don’t know how to tell friends you aren’t interested in hanging out, even though you don’t have any other plans, because you would rather sit by yourself in an empty room.

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You shouldn’t wait for him forever because it’s not fair for you to be the one waiting, the one chasing, the one pouring all your love into him.

Maybe one day, you can add him back. Maybe one day, you can be friends again. But not right now. Right now, you need to keep your distance from him. You need to look out for yourself.

When you burn yourself out, it’s a warning sign you need to start doing something differently.

You don’t keep a tally of how many times your person has washed the dishes this week versus how many times you’ve done the laundry this week. You don’t count up their ‘failings’ in order to hold it over their head the next time you have an argument.