The end of your relationship isn’t the end of your love life. There are going to be other people who click with you, other people who pour effort into you. You’re not destined to spend the rest of your existence alone, just because one relationship didn’t work out.
Even though you might feel like no one understands you like he does, no one can make you laugh like he does, think about the way you felt before he came along. Didn’t you have the same doubts? He proved to you that you were wrong about how you were never going to find someone who made you happy, and someone else will prove you wrong again.
The end of your relationship isn’t the end of your happiness. In fact, you’re going to feel better shedding yourself from the wrong relationship than you would have felt fighting for the wrong relationship.
You have to let go of the idea that having a boyfriend automatically makes you successful or adult or put together. Your relationship status has absolutely nothing to do with your overall success, so stop equating the two things. Love isn’t everything. It’s nice to experience, but it’s not essential to your happily ever after.
The end of your relationship isn’t the end of your reputation. You shouldn’t worry about people judging you because breakups happen every single day. People are far less worried about what you’re doing with your heart than what’s happening to their own heart.
Sure, you might feel embarrassed to change your relationship status to single after making it look like you two were so happy on social media, but these things happen. No one cares as much as you do. And the people who actually give a damn about you only want what’s best for you. They only want you to be happy.
The end of your relationship isn’t the end of your journey. You’re young. You still have a million adventures to embark upon. You still have so much of the world to experience. Your story isn’t over just because your love story is.
Instead of thinking as your singleness as a negative thing, you should embrace it. Instead of putting all of your effort into a relationship, you can put the same amount of effort into self-care, into learning more about what you want and where you want to head moving forward. This can be a learning experience for you. It can propel you in the right direction.
The end of your relationship isn’t the end of the world. You’re allowed to be upset over losing someone who mattered to you, but you shouldn’t fool yourself. You shouldn’t torture yourself. You shouldn’t assume you’re going to be miserable forever.
You might be going through a rough time right now, you might feel like love is a lie or like you’re never going to experience happiness again, but you have to remember this is only a bump along the road. You’re going to get over this. You’re going to get over him.