Holly Riordan

Almost relationships aren’t fair to you because you deserve consistency.

It will give you the chance to focus on your own wants, needs, and priorities.

You are too busy worrying about your friends and family to worry about yourself.

You don’t have to tear all your walls down and wear your heart on your sleeve. You can still be cautious about who you let into your heart. You can still get to know someone before deciding whether they deserve access to your thoughts. You are allowed to be picky about who you love. Just don’t swear off love completely.

It’s okay for you to decide you only want to surround yourself with people who will take your emotions seriously and distance yourself from the people who make you feel bad about having a heart.

My anxiety makes it hard to build new relationships because my guard is up too high for me to see clearly. 

If your person isn’t interested in helping you through your lowest points, then they don’t deserve you during your highest points. 

They are going to try their hardest to destroy your self-esteem so you lose the energy to fight, so you forget about walking away. 

If someone cannot handle your love, they don’t deserve your love.

No, you can’t fix whatever is wrong, you can’t solve the problem for them — but you can be their shoulder to cry on. You can be there to listen while they rant. You can remind them that no matter what happens you’re going to be standing by their side. 

Maybe you’re successful in ways that are much harder to measure.

You shouldn’t put effort into someone who refuses to put in effort of their own.

Your instinct might be to protect your heart and keep your guard high, but you can’t stay closed off forever.

You assume they are out of your league. You assume they wouldn’t have any interest in you. You assume they would break your heart. So you don’t even try to get to know them. You run away without even giving them a chance. 

Which movie can you quote the most lines from? 

You have intense mood swings because you aren’t taking proper care of yourself. You aren’t stopping to recharge. You aren’t pausing to deal with your problems. You’re ignoring everything other than your work because the only thing you care about is your productivity.

You have to learn to stop feeling like you’re a failure if you don’t get a million things done each day. You have to stop pushing yourself past your own limits.

You have already done the hardest part by walking away from them. However, that does not mean the rest of your journey is going to be easy.