You have to give up the idea that you have to stay and fight when a relationship or a friendship isn’t working. Just because you have history with a certain person doesn’t mean that person needs to remain in your future. It doesn’t mean you have to say goodbye to your morals and your standards in order to make room for them in your world.
Even though you’ve been taught that you should never quit, quitting can actually be a type of freedom. You shouldn’t continue down a career path that makes you miserable, just like you shouldn’t keep people in your life who make you miserable. Giving up on the wrong person doesn’t show weakness. It shows strength. After all, it’s much easier to continue on with the life you’re currently living, even when you’re unhappy, than it is to change. Making a change is difficult. Quitting is difficult. Deciding you deserve more is difficult.
Of course, that doesn’t mean you should give up at the first sign of trouble. If someone means a lot to you, and is a positive presence in your life, then you should fight as hard as you can for them. You should communicate. You should come to compromises. You should try your best to make your lives align.
However, you have to learn how to distinguish when someone is worth all that effort and when they are worth walking away from without a glance back. You have to learn how to tell the difference between a person who deserves to remain in your life, at any cost, and a person who has got to go.
Remember, you don’t have to fall back on fighting for someone, simply because you’re used to having them around. Even if they were a good fit for you in the past, that doesn’t mean they’re a good fit for your future. Walking away from them could be best for the both of you. It could give you the opportunity to grow. It could push you to reach your fullest potential.
Although it’s sad to say goodbye, it’s not always a bad thing to cut someone out of your life. Sometimes, it’s going to save you from a lot of stress, self-consciousness, and drama. Sometimes, it’s going to give you a well-needed chance to start over.
You don’t owe anyone your time or attention. You don’t have to continue associating with people who bring out the worst in you, who make you feel bad about yourself, who make you doubt your own potential.
Cutting people out of your life doesn’t make you a bad person. Cutting people out of your life doesn’t make you selfish. Cutting people out of your life doesn’t make you ungrateful. You should surround yourself with people who uplift you, support you, encourage you, challenge you. You don’t have to stick with a friendship or a relationship, simply because of your history. You are allowed to outgrow each other. You are allowed to move on.