When You Love Someone, You Overcome Your Obstacles Together

When You Love Someone, You Overcome Your Obstacles Together

When you love someone, you don’t leave them hanging when they come to you for help. You don’t walk away while they’re crying their eyes out. You don’t go MIA until they’re feeling better because you only want them around when they’re in a fun mood and don’t want to deal with them in a rough mood.

When you love someone, you stick with them through the toughest experiences of their life. You help them in whatever way you can.

No, you can’t fix whatever is wrong, you can’t solve the problem for them — but you can be their shoulder to cry on. You can be there to listen while they rant. You can remind them that no matter what happens you’re going to be standing by their side.

When you love someone, you can’t come around to see them only when it’s convenient. You can’t abandon them when they need you the most. You should act as a team. Their problems should be your problems. Their misery should be your misery. They should never feel like they’re going through their hardships alone.

If they’re involved in too much drama for you to handle, then leave. But if you want to be with them, you can’t take the good without the bad. You can’t have the highs without the lows. You need to be there for your partner in the same way they’re always there for you.

When you love someone, it isn’t always going to be easy. Sometimes, things aren’t going to go the way you planned. Sometimes, you’re going to deal with unexpected circumstances. Sometimes, you’re going to have to grab a box of tissues and have some tough conversations.

Relationships aren’t always bouquets and butterflies. They can be stressful. They can be complicated. Life isn’t always going to reward you with exactly what you want. Even the best relationships, and the best people, will experience rough times.

When your partner is going through pain, you can’t be pissed at them for not being themselves. You can’t get frustrated over how long it’s taking them to snap back. You can’t judge their healing process. You have to be there for them every step of the way. You have to give them the space they need and the affection they crave.

Most importantly, you need to keep the lines of communication open. You might handle your problems in completely different ways, so you won’t be able to guess what is going through their mind. You won’t be able to predict what they need from you. You need to talk in order to figure out where they stand. You need to make sure you’re on the same page.

When you love someone, you can’t stick around for the fun moments and wander away as soon as something real happens. You can’t run away at the first sign of trouble.

If you really want to be together, if you believe this person is worth it, then you need to help them through their biggest hurdles. You need to remind them you’ll be there through it all. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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Holly is the author of Severe(d): A Creepy Poetry Collection. Follow Holly on Instagram or read more articles from Holly on Thought Catalog.

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