1. You might be confused about why they flirted with you for so long and then dropped off the face of the planet. You might feel like you aren’t sure where they stand. You might be tempted to text them in order to get closure. But you don’t need answers to any of your questions because they already answered the biggest one — are they worthy of you? And the answer is no.
2. You deserve love. You deserve attention. You deserve to be treated right. You shouldn’t have to text someone three times in order to get an answer. You shouldn’t have to beg someone to hang out with you in order to convince them to stop by your place. Relationships require effort — but you shouldn’t be the only one putting in the effort. You shouldn’t be chasing after love. It should be a little easier than that.
3. They already showed you where their priorities lie. They already showed you they aren’t as interested in you as you are in them. Regardless of how much you like them, you don’t want to end up in a one-sided relationship. You’re better off staying single than getting into a relationship where you’re the one who cares more, who loves more, who does more.
4. You aren’t going to change their mind. Nothing you say is going to convince them to start valuing you. Even if you buy yourself a few more weeks or months with them, do you really want to be with someone who couldn’t see your worth from the start? Someone who you are always going to be worried will take off again? Chasing them isn’t worth the hassle. It will only bring you more heartache in the end.
5. You might want to give them the benefit of the doubt. You might come up with excuses to justify their disappearance. Maybe they’ve been swamped with work. Maybe they had a family emergency. Maybe they got into an accident themselves. But it’s not that hard to answer a text. If any of those things happened to them, they would still get back to you after a few weeks. If they don’t bother to reconnect, then the relationship probably wasn’t meant to be.
6. You probably miss this person. You probably wish this person was still in your world. You’re probably putting this person on a pedestal — but you have to admit, ghosting isn’t attractive. Instead of freaking out about what you might have said to push the other person away, you should be thankful you got rid of someone who was willing to ghost you. It should be a wake up call that this person wasn’t as perfect for you as you originally thought.
7. You shouldn’t chase after someone who is perfectly fine with the idea of ducking out of your world forever. You should hold out for someone who is as excited to see you as you are to see them. Someone who loves hanging out with you. Someone who believes you’re worth the effort. Someone who would never disappear out of the blue because spending time without you would hurt way too much.