The most classic sign of the “halo effect” at work is when we fall in love with someone’s potential instead of their reality.
That’s the thing about getting too good at healing, getting too comfortable with only relying on yourself. It can build a fear of opening up and sharing a life, even if that’s all you really want.
Our brains are constantly working to collect evidence that supports what we want to think is true.
The idea that you have to earn it – that it’s outside of you – is only keeping you from yourself.
If you’re having trouble in your relationships as a “Hero,” it’s because you’re attracting people who need help, not who want to be loved.
In a world that profits from your self-hate, liking yourself is an act of rebellion.
Not every thought or feeling that passes is representative of reality, and not being able to tell the difference between gut instincts and intruding thoughts is what lands people in a lot of emotional chaos.
Attraction is an essential part of making love work, but it is not love itself, and that is a crucial distinction.
They flaunt their indifference. They act as though the relationship meant nothing to them.
The big reason why people with obsessive thoughts or compulsive behaviors can’t get past them is because they are deep thinkers.